Mama, come out from under the bed

This week has been smelly, literally. My husband and I have both had the flu and my son has been teething so much I thought an extra appendage should break through his gums. I washed the white load three times because I just kept forgetting it and leaving it in the washer until it smelled. My dishes were strategically piled in the sink and the rags smelled gross. {I purposefully tried not to smell when I went near the sink.} Gross. But nevertheless, reality.

It is times like these, and any time when stresses are high and energy low, that I often feel my mothering abilities are sub par, at best. I feel wholly inadequate in comparison to the task. I focus on all the things I’m doing that I don’t like and completely dismiss the little, but monumentally important things I do well each day.

Each day I hug my boy,
I kiss him softly,
I whisper “I love you” into his impressionable ears.

Each day I think about how I could make him smile,
How I could make him feel cared for,
How I could make his day.

Each day I get on the ground and am my son’s playmate,
his best bud.

Each day, I strive to fulfill his need to simply be loved.
No questions asked, no prerequisites needed.
My love is free and that is the greatest gift.

I know the things I do, and my love for my family are not unique to me. I see so many others, you, loving fully, acting selflessly, and living kindly all the time. It inspires me to keep going and to be more loving myself.

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put into that action.”

– Mother Teresa

So keep it up, my friend. Keep doing those little things that you feel are nothing. Keep kissing those chubby cheeks and reading the same book 20 times; keep washing the same load 3 times and picking up odds and ends strewn across the floor; keep spraying Febreeze and airing out the house; keep snuggling late into the night and sleeping with a kink in your neck, because it really does matter.

It shows you care.

IMG_20150127_112328647So come out from under the bed, Mama. Show your face, because you’re doing a fabulous job. As mom’s we may not do everything we ever hoped and we may not raise the next Einstein, but we can raise a child who knows how to love, because they’ve been loved–and that is powerful.

“If you want to bring happiness to the whole world, go home and love your family.”

– Mother Teresa

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13 thoughts on “Mama, come out from under the bed

    • Thank you so much, Kim!! Luckily things are going much better for our family now, and we are getting more sleep. Sorry for such a late response! I’m still trying to figure out a balance with my schooling. 🙂 I hope you are doing well!

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  1. Ugh! Am really sorry to hear you’ve all been down with the bug and teeth (always seems to happen at once, doesn’t it?) It is amazing to me that even in the midst of all this, you take time to mother the rest of us with such wonderful outlooks and perspectives. Setting a good example is the best teacher and I think you’ve surpassed yourself with this!

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    • Thank you so much for your encouragement and kindness, Torrie! It is amazing how the phrase “when it rains, it pours” seems to be true so often! Luckily we are starting to feel better and get some more sleep. And thank you, when I’m having a hard time, I can’t help but think there have got to be other mom’s out there trying to get through hard times, too. Thank you for your kindness and I hope you are doing well! 🙂

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    • Karen, I’m so sorry for such a late response! Your encouragement that love is the big thing in life has been such a great reminder. I really do think you are right! Thank you for your sweet comment! I hope you are doing well 🙂

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  2. I LOVE that last line–“As mom’s we may not do everything we ever hoped and we may not raise the next Einstein, but we can raise a child who knows how to love, because they’ve been loved–and that is powerful.” I think that is the most important of all! And it really is the small things. You are a great mom, Marla, and I always love your encouragement. 🙂 I hope everyone feels better soon! Ugh, this winter has been horrible for sicknesses, hasn’t it?

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    • Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Chelsi! And sorry for such a late response. I’ve been trying to figure out how to balance family and schooling and… dishes and laundry! It seems blogging has moved to the back burner at the time. But, I really do appreciate your kindness. We are feeling a bit better over here, but seriously, Parker’s molars are killing us! I’ll never look at a mouth full of teeth the same way again. Cause man, it represents a lot of sleepless nights, crying, boogers, and drooling! 😉 I hope you are doing well! And I’m excited for you and your newest boy coming soon!! I’m sure he is going to be adorable just like the others! Congratulations!!

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      • I was going to send you a message the other day and just ask how school and life was going, but then you wrote and beat me to it. I hope that you’re surviving the homework, housework, and teething. 🙂 Hang in there! I’ve been thinking about you and hoping you are surviving this semester. You can do it! Good luck!

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  3. Oh man! We were just there! I really hope you guys are feeling better! Not fun! Such a lovely message in this post! I always tell my kids throughout the day that I love them-even when I’m irritated. It’s so important that they know.

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    • Thank you for understanding, Tarynn, and sorry for such a late response! Sickness and teething really is a mess! I don’t think I’ll ever look at a mouth full of teeth the same again… cause it represents a lot of sleepless nights, crying, boogers, drool, and tylenol! 🙂 And I’m so impressed by you… It is hard to express love when you are irritated–so props for that! 🙂

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  4. I love this Marla… Such an important reminder. I’ve been feeling rather sub par here lately. Sometimes we need reminders that the small, daily, constant things we do far outweigh any mistakes we make, but it doesn’t always feel that way in the moment. Thanks for the encouragement… I feel like I’ve missed you around blog world lately! 😘

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    • Oh Rachael, seeing your name come up on my phone was medicine for the soul! 🙂 I do agree, that remembering in the moment that our small, daily acts are the most important, is really hard. I’m glad you could find some encouragement, because you really are a fabulous mother. And thank you so much for just remembering me…. It means so much that even though I haven’t posted in a bit, that you have thought of me. 🙂 Thanks for being wonderful, my friend!

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