*This post was originally published on Aug. 26th, 2014. As the cold and winter sets in and my ability to exercise outside is limited, this post came to the forefront of my mind. I’m seeking to find peace and balance in health and in my body this wintry season.
Recently I read an article, Your Body Is Not Your Masterpiece, and my perception of body image was changed. This was a big deal for me, considering I have read article after article about body image. I have written papers on body image and scoured the internet looking for research on the topic. Yet for me, this article gave the perfect metaphor for my body and what its purpose truly is.
“Your body is not your masterpiece — your life is.
It is suggested to us a million times a day that our BODIES are PROJECTS. They aren’t. Our lives are. Our spirituality is. Our relationships are. Our work is.
Stop spending all day obsessing, cursing, perfecting your body like it’s all you’ve got to offer the world. Your body is not your art, it’s your paintbrush. Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush or a thin paintbrush or a stocky paintbrush or a scratched up paintbrush is completely irrelevant. What is relevant is that YOU HAVE A PAINTBRUSH which can be used to transfer your insides onto the canvas of your life — where others can see it and be inspired and comforted by it.” (Melton)
Wow, right? Her metaphor hit me like none other, because it is true. So often I spend time worrying about my paintbrush, when I could be painting my dreams, personality, and love for others all over my canvas. In fact, I could be traveling the world hoping to add my own personal paint color and beauty to other people’s canvas of life.
Of course we shouldn’t spend all day worrying about our paintbrush, but there is something important about our paintbrush–that it works. I think it’s important we take enough care of our paintbrushes so they don’t slow us down or hinder us from expressing our vibrant souls.
We could go on and on about what is the right way to take care of our bodies. I reach a nice balance when I combine this paintbrush metaphor with THIS address, by Jeffrey Holland, it is perhaps the most encouraging talk I read as a teenager. It was 2005 and I was in the midst of teenage anxiety, worrying about what puberty had done to my hips. I listened to this talk multiple times over the years to re-center and re-focus myself on what mattered most. The entire talk is full of gems, but this excerpt gets across what I feel is often lost in the world’s extremes:
We should all be as fit as we can be… That means eating right and exercising and helping our bodies function at their optimum strength. We could probably all do better in that regard. But I speak here of optimum health; there is no universal optimum size. (emphasis added)
For some reason, the world preaches from its social pulpit that there is a universal optimum size. That if you are doing all the right things: exercising, eating well, sleeping, drinking water, etc… you will have the slender, toned, masterpiece of a body you are looking for. But that is simply not true. As much as I have tried, my body likes curves. It is just that way. Others’ bodies are taller or more slender. In the end, it is important to realize the goal is not a target size or weight, it is health.
So what am I trying to go for now? A healthy paintbrush. My own healthy, curvy paintbrush. A paintbrush I love, because it helps me spread joy. A paintbrush I clean, because I want people to see my true colors. A paintbrush I care for so I can skip around the world spreading my unique and beautiful creations.
How are you learning to be at peace with your body?